This happens to me a lot. I’m doing the right things but sometimes for the wrong intention. I have an amazing idea or an amazing project but it turns out wrong because I was not doing it for the right reasons. Doing things for the wrong reasons can sometimes be just as bad as not doing it at all.
We’ve all heard the phrase… “that’s backward” or “you’re doing it backward” at some point in our lives. Sometimes it can be from doing something in the wrong order or simply just doing something wrong. This is how it can be when we are trying to trust God and do what he has called us to do, but for the wrong intentions.
Signs that you can be doing things from the wrong reasons
If you’re trying to please people
My personality type is a people pleaser by default. It’s something that I do my best to work on. No matter how hard I try and I want to do better or do something for myself, I turn right back around and end up doing things for other people. It gets so bad that I make decisions with others in mind. This isn’t a bad thing, but when it controls all of my decisions to the point where I’m simply doing things because I am afraid of how they will react is the problem. I cannot allow myself to do things simply for other people’s happiness. If it does not coincide with what God is telling me to do, then it gets me nowhere. In order to have strength in our source, we need to go back to what he said and how our actions and our gifts can be put for his glory, not to glorify other people.
"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him" Hebrews 11:6 (NIV)
You are getting something out of it that solely benefits you in some way
Now with being selfless, comes selfishness. Sometimes we do things simply because we know that we can get something from it, like a give and take relationship. We always want something when we do something for other people. At times this can make us selfish. I don’t believe that God gave us our gifts simply to exploit them. In order to be stronger with our source, we have to think about these things. If we are using our gifts to get something in return, it’s only pushing us further away from our source. Our gifts are truly a gift. They must be given with no expectation to receive anything.
"Therefore, I urge you brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is you true and proper worship” Romans 12:1 (NIV)
If you catch yourself doing either of these things…you might be doing in backward. You aren’t finding strength in your source if you are allowing yourself to do things for a profit. God isn’t asking for us to gain anything besides a closer connection with him. That’s really all he’s asking for. Even when he asks us to let go of something or to use our gift in a new way it’s not bad. He’s simply getting rid of distractions and pushing us closer to him. That’s all God ever wants from his children is for us to simply gain strength from him. But that doesn’t happen when we’re living backward. We have to get ourselves back in the right direction and push ourselves towards our source.